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| Brandon Davies BYU suspended player |
I thought that every young man was taught that he wasn’t supposed to kiss and tell, but here we have Brandon Davies tearfully admitting to his entire damn locker room that he had sex with his girlfriend…OH MY GOD! I have heard of tragedies in my day, but I don’t think that the tragedy of making love to your girlfriend of 3 years is one that needs to be confessed to the whole damn locker room….shame on the people that either expected it, wanted it or condoned it…
Today we have heard so much rhetoric about premarital sex and the arguments for and against as they were bantered back and forth. A young man has most likely thrown away a pretty promising career and maybe even that of a few of his friends because he was taught that premarital sex was bad, and then he went ahead and loved his girlfriend and made love to her anyway….
Wow… here is what some of the players had to say according to NYDailynews.com, Davies is said to be, "extremely remorseful, heartbroken" a source told The Tribune. The team's best player, Jimmer Fredette, recounted Davies' apology. "He told us everything. He told us he was sorry and that he let us down," Fredette said. (told them everything???)
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| Brandon Davies girlfriend | Danica Mendivil |
Heartbroken? Tearful? This poor young man and his girlfriend, Danica Mendivil, a freshman on the volleyball team at Arizona State University, most likely will never sleep together again or with anyone else. Talk about making someone feel really awful about sex!
Now I am not saying that BYU should not have done what they did. If players were required to wear purple toe nail polish, then they gotta do just that, what rules the coach makes, or school makes, well those rules are followed or you are off. Brandon knew all about those rules.
But what concerns me is the tragedy of two young people who obviously care for each other...and then were made to feel that they have done such a terrible wrong that it required tears and locker room confessions!
I really believe that this whole story is about 2 people who love each other. The world does not need more sexually messed young people, and this is exactly what is happening here. I feel sorry for Brandon and Danica…and not because they have ‘sinned’!
4 comments:
I couldn't agree more!! He knew the rules... so he should have to follow them.... but at the same time I am afraid that BYU is finding pleasure in being able to show people how damn righteous the are.
I mean, seriously! Look at how righteous they are! They will give up hope of a basketball championship because they are punishing a young man who deserves punishing, he knows the rules. Only really righteous people must be able to stand by their guns and hold him responsible for this!! Especially with everything they stand to lose!
Let's not mention all the other athletes who have done the same thing (or worse) and had it swept under the rug by the school. Let's not mention the children that were born four months after their BYU athlete parents were married. Let's not mention the athletes with criminal history records that are thicker than the LDS standard combination. Let's not mention everyone else that has had honor code violations and never missed a damned day of practice, let alone a game!! Let alone an entire season!! .... because THIS TIME they are holding this young man accountable.
I have heard that BYU is making a big deal out of this to create media attention. I don't doubt it one bit. I have seen quite a few friends of mine mention on facebook how pleased they are that BYU is "standing for what is right." The problem here is, I don't think loving your girlfriend (of three years!!!) is wrong.....
Uggh, and to think I went to school with all these self-righteous assholes.
Makes me sick to my stomach.
(well, if that isn't a midnight rant I don't know what is!!) LOL
I acknowledge what you said, but I thought I would add... I think he'll be able to have sex with her and/or others without hesitation soon, if he hasn't already.
The attitudes reflected in the blog as well as the comments left by "Miss Sara" and "Amy Garner" appear to have missed the whole point of the BYU honor code.
Don't you have a clue what's happened to this country over the past 50 years? Outside of the LDS Church, this country's moral values have gone down the toilet and out in the ocean! No thanks to Hollywood, for that matter.
The whole issue is simply a matter of respect. Respect for human life -- the sanctity and protection of the unborn. Respect for the family. In other words, not putting the cart before the horse, but getting married and then procreating children in the holy bonds of matrimony. Putting selfishness ahead of those things of greater value is what has put this country on the path it's headed right now. Our politicians and their ilk have made this point quite obvious by their examples.
A basketball championship is simply another form of the "King of the Mountain" game played by kids who're around the age of 5, only it's obviously being played by a group of more mature people. And, to tell you the truth, placing the honor code above the basketball championship was the right thing to do. BYU doesn't place value where you may feel it should, but the honor code has been around for a long time and is what sets the university apart from all of the others that don't appear to value integrity as much.
Yes, you have the right to disagree, but you should seriously consider another viewpoint before profaning a different perspective (Miss Sara said -- "I am afraid that BYU is finding pleasure in being able to show people how damn righteous they are"). You don't have to agree, but you should at least put yourself in someone else's shoes for once in your life!
If you don't respect other peoples' values, then please keep your comments to yourself. Thank you.
OK, so I am going to weigh in here and post again as I love this tragic tale of two young lovers in the LDS church...
NO, I don't believe that the moral values of America are in the tiolet, I believe in the youth of this great country along with the adults.
I also believe that SEX IS NOT BAD! PREMARITAL SEX is NOT BAD! Sanctity of life? Get a clue....
I also do NOT believe that BYU is the savoir of us all. There is no missed message.
Yes, BYU LOVES to throw in their 'look how good we are' self-righteous card. I know, they taught me well!
BYU is a church school. If you wanna play for them, then drink their Kool-Aid, if it kills you then it was your choice.
I for one and happy to have moved on.
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